The Role of Organized Sports in Your Child’s Life

Sports provide your child many benefits, including physical exercise, fun, confidence, and community. For many children, sports are the most natural and joyful way of expressing grace and excellence in their young lives. With these benefits in mind and hoping to provide the best opportunities for your child, you and other parents dutifully sign up your young children for the local youth program of choice. Surely, this is the best way for children to pursue their interest in sports, develop their abilities, and get the most out of the experience. But is it?

Organized Sports

Benefits of Organized Sports

Organized sports, administered by adults, offer one path for a child to learn and appreciate sports. Skill clinics and traditional developmental youth leagues ideally enable knowledgeable coaches to teach children specific sports skills, team play, sportsmanship, and life lessons. Balanced with competition suited to the age group and skill level, proper instruction can provide the program’s youth participants with a great experience. In addition, activities are supervised, helping to ensure your child’s safety. However, please don’t make the mistake of believing that organized sports alone will provide your child with the best overall sports experience. Organized sports are only one part of the equation.


Rich Beginnings

In my youth (and possibly yours), playing and learning sports was a multifaceted developmental experience. It began with my Dad introducing me to sports by playing catch and providing basic instruction. Too young to play in a youth league back then; I can also recall my Dad occasionally taking me to a local baseball field on a warm summer evening to watch a Little League baseball game. Mostly, I remember the stop afterward for an ice cream cone. In elementary school, a gym teacher began our basic instruction in various competitions and modified sports. Kickball games during gym class and recess provided a fun introduction to team sports. I played in my first neighborhood pickup baseball and football games at seven or eight. Being one of the youngest, I only hoped to get an occasional chance to catch the ball and take some swings at the plate. I was thankful for the opportunity to play with older boys and be part of the neighborhood group. As I grew and became a more accomplished athlete, my role increased–and this success only fueled my enjoyment and interest in sports.

Learning to Become Self-Reliant

But it’s essential to understand that these neighborhood games were more than just playing sports. They were also about learning how to interact with other children–without the help of parents or other adults. We learned how to recruit neighborhood kids, organize the game, deal with arguments, balance our competitive instincts against the needs of others in the group, and otherwise manage the game so that everyone wanted (or at least continued) to play. Often, it was a balancing act to keep everyone satisfied and the game going. Depending on who was playing and our mood, the games emphasized relaxed fun or more serious competition. But most importantly, we controlled our experience–we learned to become more self-reliant.

A Complementary Role in Years Past

For us, the organized sports activities of our youth were separate, complementary experiences that helped fill our weekday evenings and Saturday mornings. In some ways, organized sports represented the formal test of our daily fun and games. We accepted that more structured parents run these youth leagues and are usually more competitive. It was still an exciting, satisfying experience–run by caring coaches who balanced competition, learning, and fun. That’s not to say there weren’t moments of stress, fear, boredom, or the occasional poor coaching. In my first year of football, I was the youngest (and lightest). Trying to tackle bigger boys was a scary experience. While playing youth baseball, I also recall facing a pitcher who had an unbelievable fastball but was also very wild. We all feared that pitcher but knew that if we took enough pitches, there was a good chance that he would walk us (but hopefully not hit us).

So, what were the crucial elements comprising my youth sports experience? They involved parents, gym teachers, neighborhood pickup games that provided an opportunity for unstructured, self-organized play, and organized sports. The latter was only a part of the whole.

Organized Sports Today

But it’s a new world–and some of the changes are for the better. Title Nine, for example, has opened the world of sports to millions of young girls. Other changes include more two-paycheck families, single parents, 24-hour news that sensitizes us to the potential dangers our children face on their own, and an expanded universe of non-sports activities available to a child. Unlike Title Nine, these changes are more mixed in their benefits and drawbacks. But one truth is certain: parents now lead lives filled with personal and family activities.

In a generation of busy parents, it’s no surprise that organized sports have taken on a much larger role. Scheduled, highly structured, safe, and organized sports fit into today’s lifestyle more easily. Why not expect that organized sports can be the beginning and end of your child’s sports experience?

Unfortunately, placing these heavy expectations on an organized youth sports program is bound to fail one kind or another. A limited number of volunteer coaches with varying degrees of expertise, multiple age groups and skill levels bunched together into single leagues, and different attitudes regarding balancing fun and competition all make it difficult to produce a program that fully satisfies the needs of every participant. As a result, complaints arise that traditional youth sports programs are too competitive, do not provide equal playing time, and fail to give younger beginners and less-skilled children the best opportunity to learn and have fun.

A Better, More Balanced Approach

So, how do we provide the best sports experience for our youth in today’s world? I would suggest that parents embrace a principle embodied in our past–balancing participation in organized sports with other developmental opportunities, including direct parental involvement and separate, self-directed play by the children. Don’t outsource your child’s sports education to an organized youth sports program.

You still control your choices even in a more complex, changing world. Spend time playing catch with your child, limit “electronics” time, let go a little (take a chance as your parents did with you), and send your child outside to play with other neighborhood children. City, suburb, and rural neighborhoods all present safety issues and potential risks. Only you can determine how much trouble you are willing to assume. But ask yourself, “Is your neighborhood any more unsafe than the one you grew up in–or has our omnipresent 24-hour news cycle simply sensitized our society to the potential dangers?”

If you are uncomfortable with unsupervised play or your work schedule keeps you and your child away from home during the day, try to find a facility where your child can play with others in a self-directed setting. For example, it’s not unusual in the afternoon at the local YMCA to see younger children involved in a fun two-on-two pickup basketball game or a more competitive full-court game. The YMCA provides a safe, semi-supervised environment that allows children to do their own thing.

And finally, take an active interest in your child’s organized youth sports experience. Find the local programs that offer the best blend of fun, learning, and competition that fits your child. Be supportive. But also strive for a healthy balance between parental involvement and allowing your child to explore sports independently. Don’t believe that organized youth sports programs are the answer or that you are a poor parent for not placing your child in every available program. You may find that everyone in the family benefits from less emphasis on organized sports.


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