Outgrowing Our Old Life

As we grow we are going to outgrow people, situations, behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs. Not everyone will make it over into our new life. It doesn’t mean anything was wrong with them it just means that their part in your life story is over. We are going to outgrow our old life. We are going to meet new people who now play a part in our new story. You might take a lot of flak for moving forward, however, it is important that you do what is best for your life and for your growth. All of us are individually responsible for the growth of ourselves and our lives. We need to become leaders of our own life. That means we are responsible for the things, situations, people that come into our life. We are going to outgrow certain kind of conversations, thoughts that no longer serve us and behaviors that do not bring about growth in our lives.

Your destiny is never tied to anyone who is walking away from your life neither does anyone’s destiny is tied up to you walking away from them. No matter who is doing the walking away we need to respect people’s decision to move on with their life. If we realize that there is too much drama going on in our life and it is keeping us stuck then it is important that we remove ourselves from whatever is causing that drama even if it is us. We cannot continue keeping ourselves anywhere that does not bring about growth and development.

There comes a time when we need to take a deeper look at our life and see if where we are is where we truly desire to be. It is also going to take deep strength and commitment to growth for us to walk away from a life that is only causing us to break down more and more. That is not healthy. Each and every individual deserves to live a life that is abundant and prosperous. We can’t live that life if there is chaos in our life. We are blocking our ability to tune into our abundance if our life is not emotionally healthy and free. Everything that comes into our life serves a purpose, a reason and a healing. However, not everything that comes into our life is meant to be in our life forever. Problems occur when we try to force others to be in our lives. If someone says they need space, then honor that request. If someone is walking away from you let them go. They are not your prisoner.



We are born free. Free to be where we desire to be, free to make decisions about where our life is going and free to live a life of happiness, stress-free and safe. No one should threaten another person’s life just because they are walking away from them. That is not a healthy way to live. Life goes on and we need to let our lives flow. We also have a responsibility to ourselves to not let anyone hold us hostage in any way. That means we should never give anyone the power to hold us, hostage, mentally, emotionally, psychologically and physically.

I was born into abuse. So I grew up knowing a life filled with violence, sickness, anger, unhappiness, manipulation, mind control, and all the others disgusting things that come with abuse. However, in the midst of all that darkness, I did experience love, light, happiness, freedom. There were angels in the form of people during my teenage years that showed interest in me, cared about me, gave me strength and they instilled values in me. Those few years were a godsend. That was what I held unto during the darkest hours of my life. It is why at age 19 I could gather the strength to move out of the darkness in order to save my life. I vowed that I will never let my life be subjected to that kind of darkness. I needed more for my life and to get more for my life I had to make some hard decisions knowing full well that I would not get any support for my decisions. However, it was when I made the decision to move out that so many more angels were sent to save my life. Many of those angels are no longer in my life because their part in my story has ended, but their kind deeds have kept me going and it has influenced me to be someone else’s angel. That is how I strive to live my life every day.

While I will let my life guide me to where I need to go, I will not live in general just carry me along. Every day I take inventory of myself and of my life and where I am in my life. If I don’t like it then I take steps to take my life in a different direction. I once heard something that I now call a parable: “You will walk down a road and there is a hole that you fall into. You climb out of it and continue your Journey. The next day you walk down the same road, but this time you know about the hole, so you walk around it. The third time you simply walk down a different road”. It is the same thing with our lives. We need to be actively paying attention to our lives so that we can see if there is something that we will fall into. If we don’t see it in time then when we find ourselves in the middle of such a situation then we remove ourselves from that situation and then make the decision to walk a different Path.

We can’t be in the same thing over and over again without stopping to take stock of our lives and where it is going. It doesn’t matter if you feel that someone has betrayed you, stabbed you in the back, in the front or whatever it is? Take care of your mental, emotional and spiritual health by removing your life away from that person. That person may not feel that they did anything wrong. Don’t get caught up trying to get them to acknowledge their behavior and trying to force them to apologize. You cannot live another person’s life for them. You have got to live and pay attention to your own life. It also means that that person does not belong in your life. Release them so they can continue living their life Journey and free up yourself so that you can live your life based on your values and morals. This has nothing to do with whose values and morals are wrong or right. Your values and morals are unique to you and if they work for you then continue on your way. If other people’s values and morals clash with yours then those are not the people to have in your life. Don’t argue with people about who is right and who is wrong. Live your life in the way that brings you happiness, freedom, and joy.

It was Albert Einstein who said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” We can’t enact changes in our life if we have the same thinking that brought us into the unhealthy situation. We need to change our thinking and inevitably the people in our life will change also. Each individual has the right to travel their own path and it doesn’t make one person better than the other. We are all human beings so we are all equal. We all get the same amount of time in a day, in a week and in a year, however, it is how we use that time that is given to us that is important. Wanting a better life is actually praiseworthy. Always seeking ways to improve yourself is praiseworthy. Seeking ways to help others is praiseworthy. So don’t allow anyone to negate your life’s purpose and goals. The world needs more Leaders. It needs people who are willing to go the extra distance to help in any way they can. So don’t allow anything to hold you back. While you can use your past to strengthen and fortify you and use it motivate you, your destiny is not tied to your past. Don’t allow your past to prevent you from moving forward. The time is the present and it is for you now to step into your Greatness.


Alcohol scholar. Bacon fan. Internetaholic. Beer geek. Thinker. Coffee advocate. Reader. Have a strong interest in consulting about teddy bears in Nigeria. Spent 2001-2004 promoting glue in Pensacola, FL. My current pet project is testing the market for salsa in Las Vegas, NV. In 2008 I was getting to know birdhouses worldwide. Spent 2002-2008 buying and selling easy-bake-ovens in Bethesda, MD. Spent 2002-2009 marketing country music in the financial sector.