Outgrowing Our Old Life

As we grow, we will outgrow people, situations, behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs. Not everyone will make it over into our new life. It doesn’t mean anything was wrong with them. It just means that their part in your life story is over. We are going to outgrow our old life. We are going to meet new people who now play a part in our new story. You might take a lot of flak for moving forward. However, you must do what is best for your life and your growth. All of us are individually responsible for the growth of ourselves and our lives. We need to become leaders in our own life. That means we are responsible for the things, situations, people that come into our life. We will outgrow certain kinds of conversations, thoughts that no longer serve us, and behaviors that do not bring about growth in our lives.

Your destiny is never tied to anyone who is walking away from your life. Neither does anyone’s destiny is tied up to you walking away from them. No matter who is walking away, we need to respect people’s decisions to move on with their lives. If we realize that too much drama is going on in our lives and keeps us stuck, then we must remove ourselves from whatever is causing that drama, even if it is us. We cannot continue keeping ourselves anywhere that does not bring about growth and development.

Old Life

There comes a time when we need to take a deeper look at our lives and see if we are is where we truly desire to be. It will also take deep strength and commitment to growth to walk away from a life that is only causing us to break down more and more. That is not healthy. Every individual deserves to live a life that is abundant and prosperous. We can’t live that life if there is chaos in our life. We are blocking our ability to tune into our abundance if our life is not emotionally healthy and free. Everything that comes into our life serves a purpose, a reason, and healing. However, not everything that comes into our life is meant to be in our life forever. Problems occur when we try to force others to be in our lives. If someone says they need space, then honor that request. If someone is walking away from you, let them go. They are not your prisoner.


We are born free. We are free to be where we desire to be, free to make decisions about where our life is going, and free to live a life of happiness, stress-free and safe. No one should threaten another person’s life just because they are walking away from them. That is not a healthy way to live. Life goes on, and we need to let our lives flow. We also have a responsibility to ourselves not to let anyone hold us, hostage in any way. That means we should never give anyone the power to hold us hostage, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and physically.

I was born into abuse. So I grew up knowing a life filled with violence, sickness, anger, unhappiness, manipulation, mind control, and all the other disgusting things that come with abuse. However, in the midst of all that darkness, I did experience love, light, happiness, freedom. Turing my teenage years, there were angels in the form of people who showed interest in me, cared about me, gave me strength, and instilled values in me. Those few years were a godsend. That was what I held unto during the darkest hours of my life. It is why at age 19, I could gather the strength to move out of the darkness to save my life. I vowed that I would never let my life be subjected to that kind of darkness. I needed more for my life, and to get more for my life, I had to make some hard decisions knowing full well that I would not get any support for my decisions. However, when I decided to move out, many more angels were sent to save my life. Many of those angels are no longer in my life because their part in my story has ended, but their kind deeds have kept me going, and it has influenced me to be someone else’s angel. That is how I strive to live my life every day.

While I will let my life guide me to where I need to go, I will not live in general carry me along. Every day I take inventory of myself and my life and where I am in my life. If I don’t like it, I take steps to take my life in a different direction. I once heard something that I now call a parable: “You will walk down a road, and there is a hole that you fall into. You climb out of it and continue your Journey. The next day you walk down the same road, but this time you know about the hole, so you walk around it. The third time you walk down a different road”. It is the same thing with our lives. We need to be actively paying attention to our lives to see if there is something that we will fall into. If we don’t see it in time, when we find ourselves in the middle of such a situation, we remove ourselves from that situation and then decide to walk a different Path.

We can’t be in the same thing repeatedly without stopping to take stock of our lives and where it is going. It doesn’t matter if you feel that someone has betrayed you, stabbed you in the back, in the front? Take care of your mental, emotional and spiritual health by removing your life away from that person. That person may not feel that they did anything wrong. Don’t get caught up trying to get them to acknowledge their behavior and force them to apologize. You cannot live another person’s life for them. You have got to live and pay attention to your own life. It also means that that person does not belong in your life. Release them so they can continue living their life Journey and free up yourself so that you can live your life based on your values and morals. This has nothing to do with whose values and morals are wrong or right. Your values and morals are unique to you and if they work for you, then continue on your way. Suppose other people’s values and morals clash with yours; then those are not the people to have in your life. Don’t argue with people about who is right and who is wrong. Live your life in a way that brings you happiness, freedom, and joy.

Albert Einstein said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” We can’t enact changes in our life if we have the same thinking that brought us into an unhealthy situation. We need to change our thinking, and inevitably the people in our life will change also. Each individual has the right to travel their own path, and it doesn’t make one person better than the other. We are all human beings, so we are all equal. We all get the same amount of time in a day, in a week, and a year. However, it is how we use that time that is given to us that is important. Wanting a better life is actually praiseworthy. Always seeking ways to improve yourself is praiseworthy. Seeking ways to help others is praiseworthy. So don’t allow anyone to negate your life’s purpose and goals. The world needs more Leaders. It needs people who are willing to go the extra distance to help in any way they can. So don’t allow anything to hold you back. While you can use your past to strengthen and fortify you and motivate you, your destiny is not tied to your past. Don’t allow your past to prevent you from moving forward. The time is the present, and it is for you now to step into your Greatness.


Alcohol scholar. Bacon fan. Internetaholic. Beer geek. Thinker. Coffee advocate. Reader. Have a strong interest in consulting about teddy bears in Nigeria. Spent 2001-2004 promoting glue in Pensacola, FL. My current pet project is testing the market for salsa in Las Vegas, NV. In 2008 I was getting to know birdhouses worldwide. Spent 2002-2008 buying and selling easy-bake-ovens in Bethesda, MD. Spent 2002-2009 marketing country music in the financial sector.